Do women really keep the energy (or Sperm 😅) of their past partners?

This week, I watched a video that really pissed me off.
You know the kind — the ones where some guy, speaking in a “spiritual yet scientific” tone, explains that when a woman has sex, she “keeps all the sperm inside her,” and therefore “carries the energy of every man she’s ever been with,” which supposedly affects her future children, her vibration, and even her destiny.

Excuse me… what? 😤

As someone who’s studied both science and energy medicine, this kind of message makes every cell in my body want to roll its eyes. Not because I don’t believe in energetic exchange (I absolutely do), but because it’s yet another tactic disguised as wisdom — often by men who pretend to be enlightened but end up reinforcing shame, control, and fear around the feminine body.

And that, my friend, is the opposite of liberation.

🌿 Let’s get real: What actually happens biologically

No, your body does not “store” every partner you’ve ever had.
Here’s what science actually says:

• The sperm that enters a woman’s body during sex doesn’t stay there forever. Most of it is expelled within hours, and the rest (the few viable ones) die off naturally in 3–5 days if no fertilization occurs.
• Your DNA doesn’t absorb other people’s DNA. That’s not how reproduction or genetics work
• The old theory that claimed a woman’s future children could carry traces of her past partners — called “telegony” — was debunked over a century ago.

So no, you are not a walking archive of your lovers.
You’re a living, breathing ecosystem that regenerates and transforms daily.

 

💫 But… energetic connection? That’s real.

Where these videos get confusing is that they mix energetic truth with scientific nonsense.
Because yes — sex is energetically powerful. You don’t need to believe in chakras to feel that.

When two people connect intimately, something happens on three levels:

1️⃣ Biological

Hormones like oxytocin (bonding), dopamine (pleasure), and adrenaline (arousal) synchronize your nervous systems. That’s why it can feel magnetic — even addictive.

2️⃣ Emotional

You soften your boundaries. You open your heart and body.
If the other person carries unprocessed emotions — anger, shame, fear — you might feel those frequencies in your body too. Empaths know this too well.

3️⃣ Energetic / Spiritual

Call them “energy cords,” “soul ties,” or “attachments” — when you merge with someone, threads of energy can connect your fields.
That’s why sometimes you still “feel” someone long after they’re gone.

So yes, you can carry energy — but the key difference is:
👉 You have the power to clear it.

🧘♀️ How to release someone’s energy (without waging war)

You don’t need to burn sage until the smoke alarm goes off or cut cords with a sword of vengeance (unless that feels good 😏).

Here’s how you can release an energetic bond with clarity and compassion:

✨ Step 1 — Acknowledge the link

Close your eyes and feel where you still sense that person — your belly, your heart, your womb, your throat. Just notice.

✨ Step 2 — Call your energy back

Say silently or out loud:

“I reclaim all my power, my light, and my energy that I left in this connection.
I return to myself — whole, clear, and sovereign.”

No hate. Just truth.

✨ Step 3 — Clean your field

Take a salt bath. Breathe out through your mouth with sound. Write a release letter and burn it. Shake your body. Dance it out. Let your nervous system discharge the emotional residue.

✨ Step 4 — Seal your space

Visualize a golden bubble or field of light around you — not as a wall, but as a sanctuary.

“I am open to love, but I no longer carry what is not mine.”

🌹 And then… fill yourself back up

After you release, there’s space again.
Now it’s time to fill it — with you.

Reclaim your sensuality, your joy, your aliveness.
Move your hips. Breathe deep. Touch your skin.
Remember that your sexual energy is not something that gets “used up” — it’s your creative force.

Repeat after me:

“My energy belongs to me.
It flows freely and joyfully to nourish my life and creations.”

 

💛 The truth beneath it all

The feminine body isn’t fragile or contaminated. It’s alchemy.
You don’t “absorb” every man you’ve been with,  you transmute energy through awareness, breath, and choice.

True power doesn’t come from fear of being “tainted.”
It comes from knowing that you can open, feel, release, and rise — again and again — without losing yourself.

Because you are not a container for anyone else’s energy.
You are the source.

Release the shame. Remember your power. Reconnect with your feminine energy.

👉 Join RECONNECT— a journey to liberate your nervous system, your pleasure, and your feminine essence from the weight of shame.